The swingers lifestyle allows you to have sexual variety in the context of a happy marriage; promotes the desirability of each in the eyes of the other; removes the betrayal of deceit; provides sexual opportunities not available to singles; thereby, removing a major cause of break-ups. As you provide each other with their deepest fantasies, swingers can and do make their marriages stronger.
You LOVE sex. Otherwise you wouldn't be here on a swingers site, you'd be on ebay trying to score that rookie baseball card. Monogamy can be difficult when you love variety. The attraction of sexual adventure is so powerful, we can be led astray even if we are enjoying a happy marriage. Our DNA programs us for this. We feel compelled to procreate and the desire of both sexes is monogamy plus adultery.
Most Swinger clubs do not allow males to attend without a female partner. Some however do allow males to attend solo on certain nights only. I advise you to never have preconceived expectations of sexual encounters when attending any swinging function. More than likely you will leave unhappy. Attend to meet and mingle with others and if a sexual experience happens, COOL. Becoming a swinger in most instances will not deplete your sexual frustrations overnight, actually it may take time and patience to connect with added partners.