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The #1 cause of jealousy issues in the lifestyle within couples is the feeling of being "left out" Are you receiving attention in the chat room? through messenger or email? What type of attention are you receiving and what about it upsets him? Communicate with him and decide together if anything can be changed to make him feel more comfortable/accepting of the attention you receive. If he is getting upset by the typical flirting which is exchanged then I agree that the both of you need to decide together if swinging is an avenue to explore at this time. If he becomes upset because you receive attention on cam or from those making crude remarks in messenger or email, make adjustments. Agree that camming for now is off limits and simply delete emails or refuse to chat with those who are making the crude comments. Of course for him to feel more included, he must be active. He must make himself available to receive compliments just as you are. But he must also understand that men will most always compliment more boldly than women. Communicate with him honestly and set guidelines on how to proceed. The lifestyle is about experiencing new and fun adventures but if the both of you are not having fun adjustments need to be made.

I looked up swing in a dictionary recently. There were 22 different definitions, some verbs, some nouns. My favorite one is to live in a lively, modern, relaxed style. A swinger has all these attributes. He wants to live life, not watch it or let it pass by. She's a forward thinker, able to think outside the box. They really appreciate the pleasurable, physical, part of life. This relaxed attitude allows them to connect with others in meaningful ways.

Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein published in 1961, won the 1962 Hugo Award

This was the first book I ever read that had swingers in it. Well, it wasn't called swinging, but the orgies and communal living certainly inspired the generation who decided to throw off the shackles of conventional sexuality. It is considered to be the most socially influential book ever written by Robert Heinlein.

The main character, Valentine Michael Smith was the child of the first Mars expedition. The crew died on Mars and he was raised by Martians. When he returns to Earth in his twenties, he is human in appearance, but culturally an alien. His otherworldly views and experiences take a hard look at human behavior. It asks why do we do the things we do and should we continue in the same way. Politics, religion, sexuality, marriage are all examined through alien eyes. The book actually spawned a pagan church.

It made me think about what I do and why I do it. When I read it, I was still in a very narrow minded church. Though I continued in the religion another 15 years, it did change how I looked at religion. I decided that religion was like being made into a bonsai tree. My essential nature could not be changed. A maple is a maple is a maple. What I hoped was that the strictures and limitations of my church could be used to concentrate and distill my essence into something beautiful.