My Swingers Experiences

Swingers Experience: married adult personals

married adult personals

"The Lifestyle", for many couples, increases happiness and contentedness in their relationship as well as a better awareness of themselves and their spouse. Many couples in the lifestyle also report more closeness, less role playing, and a more equal partnership.

A friend ask me why do some men enjoy watching their wife with another man...yet others are ready to kill. That's a very good question and there really isn't a single answer. Swinging isn't for everyone and I certainly would not attempt to convince a non lifestyle minded person to swing. For those men who are lifestyle minded, seeing their significant other being pleasured sexually by another man is a HUGE turn on that ultimately creates such an erotic enhancement for their love making together. Those not within the swinging community do not or wish not to accept the concept of swinging, recerational sex. Sharing the love of your life with others sexually is simply something that most have no interest in. As lifestyle minded as my hubby is and as much as he enjoys sharing me with our swinging friends, should a man make advances toward me outside of our swinging community, he would be ready to kill as well. Those who are genuine swingers have a common interest with no hidden agendas or threats to one's relationship. Friendship including fun sex, what a concept!

"Bi Women" or "Bisexual Women" are becoming more and more common in The Lifestyle. While the popularity of "Bi Men" is also growing, it is growing at a much slower pace and heterosexuals are still the primary type of swingers in The Lifestyle.

I think somebody ought to complain. Have you seen that program Wife Swap? It is excruciatingly painful to watch. What were they thinking? Why would anyone want to swap a perfectly good wife for some nightmare from across the country? Nobody seems to be having any fun. Now swingers know what wife swapping is all about. We don't look for some creature so different from us that she spends the whole time criticizing the family and in general just making a nuisance of herself. We use swinger personals to match desire, attraction, need, and humor. Why find someone who wants to rearrange your kitchen cabinets, when you can have someone snuggle up and make you totally forget about the kitchen. Sigh, well, maybe the fall season will have something we can really enjoy. :-)

NO always means NO! The Golden rule of swinging. Be sure that you are aware of the guidelines of any prospective partner/partners and make them aware of yours. We all prefer clean, safe sex so be squeaky clean and fully aware of what is expected concerning condoms and other safe sex methods. Use your common sense, swinging is only sex, simply with added partners.

If someone you swings with starts to have feelings for you, first you certainly would tell your spouse/partner! You must always maintain an open, honest communication within your relationship. I would not only tell this "too attached" swinging partner that it's inappropriate, I would also tell them that you do not share those feelings, that you have told your spouse/partner and that you will no longer be swinging with them. You may want to stay friends but I would advise you to place distance between you and them. This kind of situation happens much more often than many of us may realize. Those not into polyamory do not accept this while swinging but there are many polyamorous swingers. For you in this situation, simply move on.

I do not live an unexamined life. If you are reading my Girlifesto, you are also driven to search within and without to define the meaning of your existence. Choosing to walk an alternative path is not a frivolous decision. The compulsion to pursue a path not regimented by culture, society, family, or religion requires courage. It is a painful process frequently delayed by false starts, dead-ends, and the restoration needed to recover from fractured illusions.